If not longer, Quoting myself... It's the EXACT same soap opera for over 2 years now, the only change is the music.... but same actors, exact same story different location,,,,different sponcers (Who now have clued in)....... I'm sure I'm gona get several ear fulls, but.....sheeeze, :banghead3:
Tedy I understand and looking at how I have posted I can see what you mean. To let you know now what is going on. We can get the jeans I have sneakers to get and to look at me now you would not see a goth. My frustrations with the giving money thing is not so much the money it's the friendship these people have betrayed and it was done so with actions not just promises. Yes we wanted to move out of Joplin and we were trying save up to do so. Then a friend from Zoe's past shows up and gives us an offer. No, Tedy, I don't hate you. I'm stressed right now and scared for my family. I am willing to do whatever I can. I'm inexperienced and you're right that I'm all over the place. It's unfortunately how my mind works. I'm sorry.
I hold no ill will. Dont mistake my question for rancorous doubt. I will still help. Doing this day in and day out, I have come across many different mind sets on this kind of matter. Not every problem is a nail in need of a hammer.
Welp.. Gotta say... I have been thinking the same thing as Tedy just really didn't have the balls to post as such.. And DocZ,, sometimes the hard truth IS the best "constructive feedback " ....
Look... I'm not mad or angry with Tedy or any who agree with him. Also, please do not send him any angry messages. That's not helpful and may potentially hurt some friendships. I don't want that.
Remember, ummm Blackfoot, I think was his ID? This is not the first time someone has shared their life experiences with us, and that takes some courage and trust to do, especially if things are tough. We haven't heard from him lately and if I remember correctly he was bouncing around the world chasing a women and following his nose through life's' tribulations. We all do at some point, and continue to do so. So X's situation doesn't appear unfamiliar here, and it doesn't surprise me that he's willing to share the details here as the environment is a little less judgmental (for the most part) that most other places I visit anyways. It's hard to find community these days. I don't have much faith in the American economy to do anything to help the situation but I am happy to see X, that you are taking action to deal with the situation. I'm sure us old farts can list a lot of real "interesting" jobs we've had to get through. I worked in a call center for a while omg I was turning into a zombie. Then I got a gig playing bass on a cruise ship. That was a different kind of hell. But the call center zombie thing made me think maybe it was something you could look into.
Yup, Blackfoot........ Guy that busted his ba**** taking anyand every crap low paying job he could find, and worked any hour of the day to make ends meet. Yup, he vented, but it was ore along the lines of....Sh**, will I ever get a brake?" Did what ever it took to put food on the table and I don't ever recall him asking for or expecting a handout. I respect that in a MAN! This thread is gona keep going, IMO it should not just be locked but delited all together. Myself, oh man, don't even know where to begin but I will say if it wasn't for in your face hard love when i was young and thought the world ows me......... Wasn't soo much the boots to the side of the head, it was when I hit rock bottom I listened, did, and excepted the fact.......... The only one who will look out for your @zz is yourself! Life isn't free, what you do with it is yours and your choice only. Have I made mistakes... Whow, there isn't enouph bandwitch on this site to list them all! I don't wish you any harm, misfortune X but..... It's up to you as to where life takes you.
I'm all for deleting this thread...after all it made Xav ask to be deleted from this forum...I for one will miss him greatly.
I was afraid of that. And it was probably my fault. But I've given my own kids worse speech's and often it helps. Excuses don't put food on the table.
You know Cat it is what it is and I am sort of from the old school as well being set out on my own at 18 to fend for myself, my parents were there but once I was 18 I had 3 months to find a place to live (already had a job washing dishes) and that was it, no coming back except to visit. I don't think Xav leaving is anyones fault, in fact the PM he sent me led me to believe he wants to prove himself and return to his wagon family. My heart is heavy today, but in the end some life lessons are hard to learn and even harder on those who care about you the most.
I have been homeless myself. I have dumpster dived for meals. I also have had 4 businesses. I have had money and I have had hard luck out the wazoo. I wont deny that it isn't hard to come back from. It is terrible and hard to overcome destitution. It takes all you have to give and a little more. Without prejudice, and with 'clean slate' knowledge I will help Xavier. Xavier will have to meet me part way, true. I can only provide information and opportunity. Hopefully, things will work out. But, as in all matters pertaining to human events, there are no guarantees. However, I want you to stay here , Xavier. The reasons are this: If you succeed then your vindication is manifest for all. You need all the positive accumulated and focused minds believing towards your success. Even those that have had words of tough love have never said anything derogatory about you. Even they, in their hearts, have hope that you will make it work. You are in standing in the crucible placed into the heart of the retort. This is the time when you will be refined to show the content, the proof of who you are. Do not run away. Stand fast, Xavier.
